Internet slams single mom for bringing 4-year-old to work

A cleaner who brought her 4-year-old son to work and reportedly spent a quarter of her work shift looking after her child has received a storm of backlash from users on Mumsnet.

Corresponding a post shared by her employer (under the username Ladyof2022)who said they were “elderly and physically disabled,” on Mumsnet, the single mother At the request of the employer, the cleaner who normally cleans the employer’s apartment for four hours every two weeks was asked to carry out an additional “one-hour special cleaning”.

That single mother asked if she could bring her son on night shift, and the employer agreed “as I didn’t want to seem unreasonable and she was doing me a favour”.

However, the employer was “not happy” with this because they didn’t know “how much time she would be spending not cleaning” but “sorting out” the son from employment to making sure he didn’t touch anything in the house.

The employer claimed that looking after the son “took about 1/4 of the time” that she was there, about 15 minutes. The employer also “noticed that she had not completed all the agreed tasks. I was a bit irritated that I paid her an hour for 45 minutes [of] work, but I said nothing.”

A woman cleaning the bathtub with a boy.
A woman cleans the faucet of a bathtub with a boy.
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The original poster said the cleaning lady was now asking if she could bring the son to her regular 4 hour cleaning sessions.

“I absolutely don’t want to say as I feel like she could easily spend an hour concentrating on him and just 3 hours cleaning and she won’t get everything done and she might miss things because she’s distracted is because she has to keep an eye on him, but she will pay for the full 4 hours,” said the Mumsnet user.

according to a Pew Research Center study of 130 countries and territories, published December 2019The US has the highest rate of children living in single-parent households in the world.

A Pew Research study published back in April 2018 showed that Americans were “far more likely to express negative opinions” about the rise of single mothers than any other trend.

Two-thirds (66 percent) of respondents said “more single women having children is bad for society,” while just four percent said it was “good for society.” The remaining 29 percent said the trend “doesn’t make much of a difference.”

That American Psychological Association (APA) says: “Living in a single-parent household — while common — can be quite stressful for both adults and children.

“The single parent may feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of taking care of the kids, keeping a job, and keeping up with the bills and chores. And typically, after parents separate, family finances and resources are drastically reduced,” the APA said.

Several Mumsnet users supported the employer in the latest AIBU post and suggested denying the cleaner’s request.

One user said: “yanbu [you are not being unreasonable], any other job you wouldn’t be allowed, so don’t allow it here. I would just politely say no without offering an explanation.”

Another noted, “Just say no, being a poor single mom when she is isn’t your problem.”

A third said the employer should say “100 percent no,” adding it was “rude of her to even ask,” while another user noted, “She’s making a request, which is fine, it is too.” ok if you say no to this request.”

However, another commenter was more diplomatic, saying: “They aren’t, but probably wouldn’t ask her if she had a choice. So it’s up to you whether you want to make it easier or not. I personally wouldn’t do it, the arrangement no longer works for you.”

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